3 Tests for Healthy Relationships: Are my motives or ? Beloved, let us [unselfishly] love and seek the best for one another, for love is from God; and everyone who loves [others] is born of God and knows God [through personal experience]. - 1 John 4:7 (Amplified Version) Am I seeking the for others? Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others. - Philippians 2:3-4 How do I know if I have a with God? By how much I ? Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love. - 1 John 4:8