Restoring Our Detached Relationship – Genesis 3:1-13 Genesis 3: 1-13 NIV Now the serpent was more crafty than any of the wild animals the Lord God had made. He said to the woman, “Did God really say, ‘You must not eat from any tree in the garden’?” The woman said to the serpent, “We may eat fruit from the trees in the garden, but God did say, ‘You must not eat fruit from the tree that is in the middle of the garden, and you must not touch it, or you will die.’” “You will not certainly die,” the serpent said to the woman. “For God knows that when you eat from it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.” When the woman saw that the fruit of the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eye, and also desirable for gaining wisdom, she took some and ate it. She also gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it. Then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they realized they were naked; so they sewed fig leaves together and made coverings for themselves. Then the man and his wife heard the sound of the Lord God as he was walking in the garden in the cool of the day, and they hid from the Lord God among the trees of the garden. But the Lord God called to the man, “Where are you?” He answered, “I heard you in the garden, and I was afraid because I was naked; so I hid.” And he said, “Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten from the tree that I commanded you not to eat from?” The man said, “The woman you put here with me—she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate it.” Then the Lord God said to the woman, “What is this you have done?” The woman said, “The serpent deceived me, and I ate.” Genesis 3:1-13 NIV DOUBT: “Did God really say…” Genesis 3:1 DISTRESS: “God did say, ‘you must not eat…and you must not touch it” Genesis 3:2-3 DISINTEGRATION: “You will not certainly die” the serpent said” Genesis 3:4 DEFICIENCY: “when you eat of it…you will be like God” Genesis 3:5 JUNGLE: Insecure Anxious Attachment Some characteristics of the jungle person: -you struggle to feel “good enough” -you strive to feel worthy of love -you seek constant reassurance -you need attention and approval -you’re oversensitive and overthink things -you exhibit people-pleasing behavior -your deepest fear, is the fear of rejection or abandonment and that can make you clingy or needy at times. DESERT: Insecure Avoidant Attachment Some characteristics: -distress will be alleviated if I solve it myself -others are not available or not dependable -the relational emotional is far less important than the cognitive -you project strength -you minimize emotions, numbing feelings is safe -you shut off the need for others -you push people away who try to get too close to you -you struggle to trust -you have a strong inner-critic -you practice self-provision and self-control. You rely on your own agency. WAR ZONE: Insecure fearful chaotic Attachment Genesis 3:14-15 NIV So the Lord God said to the serpent, “Because you have done this, “Cursed are you above all livestock and all wild animals! You will crawl on your belly and you will eat dust all the days of your life. And I will put enmity between you and the woman, and between your offspring and hers; he will crush your head, and you will strike his heel.” Genesis 3:14-15 NIV The Lord God made garments of skin for Adam and his wife and clothed them. Genesis 3:21 NIV