Now concerning the matters about which you wrote:
1 Corinthians 7:1
“It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.”
1 Corinthians 7:1

The Two Ditches of License and Legalism

2 But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband.3 The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband.
1 Corinthians 7:2-3

God’s Design for Sex:

Humble, Christ-like, self-giving

NOT

Selfish, demanding, self-gratifying

For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.
1 Corinthians 7:4

Mutuality and Equality in the sexual relationship

Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
1 Corinthians 7:5

Why is this so hard?

Can it get better?

Put sex in its right place